A Little Bit of Everything For Dummies

by John Wiley & Sons

People who deny their part in creating their own emotional problems in the face of negative events don’t recognise how their thoughts and actions can make a bad situation worse.

Realising Love’s Desirable, Not Essential Some people would rather be in any relationship – even an unsatisfying or abusive one – than in no relationship at all.

A jealous partner can end up alienating the other person through constant reassurance-seeking or monitoring, leaving both members of the couple feeling that mutual trust doesn’t exist between them. Preferring instead of demanding to have a relationship helps you to retain your independence and individuality.

clarify: self-interest involves taking responsibility for looking after yourself because you understand that you’re worth taking care of.

When you’re self-interested, you’re able to meet your own needs and take a keen interest in the welfare of other people in the world around you.

Selfishness is much less about taking responsibility for looking after yourself and much more about demanding that you get what you want, when you

want and to hell with everybody else.

Shower of relaxation: Imagine taking a warm shower. As the water cascades across your body and down your legs, it carries with it all discomfort and distress, leaving you refreshed and invigorated.

Body scan: Beginning with the crown of your head, scan your body from top to bottom. When you come to an area of tension or discomfort, gently allow it to open and soften; then move on.

you can spend an entire meditation just listening to the sounds around you, without focusing on any sounds in particular. In this way, you’re able to balance the highly concentrated awareness required to follow your breath with the more receptive, all-inclusive awareness necessary to welcome

a broad range of sensations. This blend of focus and receptivity lies at the heart of the practice of mindfulness.

Don’t make the mistake of turning your meditation practice into another urgent item on your list of things to do.

In fact, your mind deserves even more patience than a puppy because it’s developed the tendency to fantasize, worry, and obsess through a lifetime of poor training. As you practice being kind and patient with your mind, you naturally soften and relax into the present moment — which is, after all, the point of meditation.

when you meditate to determine what kind of tuning you need. If you’re tense, you may want to begin with some deep relaxation; if you’re sleepy or foggy, you may need to sit up straight, pay attention, and emphasize your concentration.

When you’re adept at following your breath, you can practice becoming your breath — merging yourself completely with the flow of the inhalation and exhalation, until you, as a separate observer, disappear and only your breath remains. Now you’re no longer breathing; instead, your breath is breathing you.

The central responsibility of a leader is to provide the climate necessary for creating growth and success. You can do many things as a leader, but ultimately, if your group’s mission isn’t successful and you don’t manage to grow something — whether it’s the skill and knowledge in a group of kids you’re mentoring or the profits of a major enterprise — then you have failed in your most basic responsibilities as a leader.

A vision is a doable dream — a distant goal that’s worth pursuing because it involves growth and success and provides the binding energy to bring a group together to accomplish great things.

A vision can be a way to make the world a better place.

Identifying Goals Your plan will help turn your vision into a mission, but you can’t lose sight of the goal of your vision. Many an enterprise has planned itself into confusion by becoming overly obsessed with the details. Plan-obsessed leaders see not only the forest, but also the trees, the bark, the needles and leaves on the forest floor, and the tiny insects boring under the tree bark. And worse, they attach equal importance to each object in the forest and fail to notice that the forest is on fire. Make it a practice to review the goals set forth in your plan with regularity, so that you never forget what your goal is.

Motivating people is a responsibility of leadership because it is the most expeditious way to achieve a goal.

the best leaders are those who can keep their groups focused and motivated.

Half the secret of life is simply showing up.

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Many successful long-term couples say that the secret of their enduring romance is not being together 24 hours a day, every day, and to pursue their own interests and careers.

Don’t coddle your puppy if she has a fearful

reaction. Your immediate attention indicates submission, not leadership. Your lowered body posture and high-pitched tone convey the message that you’re afraid, too. A better response on your part is to stand tall, either ignoring your puppy or kneeling at her side. Brace her by clipping your thumb under her collar and holding her in a sitting position. Above all else, though, you need to remain calm and assured: Your puppy will be impressed by your confidence.

When your puppy’s response is pronounced, you need to stay very calm. Keep your eyes focused on the situation at hand (not on your puppy) and interact with the stimulus — be it a person, situation, or object — in the manner you want her to mirror. If you look at your puppy or even glance back at her, your posture and visual confirmation may get misconstrued as insecurity.

When greeting your puppy, be very casual. Even though you may be beside yourself with delight, stay calm and interact with your puppy only when she’s calm too.

Simply put, when she reacts extremely, act as if your puppy isn’t even there. When applied for a few minutes, this approach will de-escalate any concern and will condition your puppy to look to and reflect your reaction.

No one gives the pup attention until she’s considerably calmer.

Under: Directs your puppy to lie under your legs or under a table. These safe places reinforce that you’re her guardian and protector.

Back: Directs your puppy to get behind you and reminds her that you’re in charge. If your puppy is wary of a person, ask him or her to ignore the puppy and to avoid all eye contact. Eye contact is often interpreted as predatory or confrontational and will often intensify your puppy’s reaction.

Emotional reassurance on your part will get misconstrued as mutual fear, and your puppy could quickly develop a phobic reaction to the situation.

Pay attention to her only when she’s relaxed. Her reactivity will improve in time.

her mat along and direct her to it. Her mat will act like a security blanket, making her feel relieved, happy, and safe.

Be subtle, not self-promotional in your posts. Avoid blatant advertising.