In lovemaking, foreplay begins as a act of relating. Lovers attend to mutual erotic interests. As the economic factor increases, this element of love-making will recede somewhat (though not disappear) as the lovers surrender to that ruthlessness inherent in erotic excitement. This ruthlessness has something to do with a joint loss of consciousness, a thoughtlessness which is incremental to erotic intensity. It is a necessary ruthlessness as both lovers destroy the relationship in order to plunge into reciprocal orgasmic use. Indeed the destruction of relationship is itself pleasurable and the
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