asked respondents how they thought they could have been better prepared or what they wish they’d known. Here are a few of the answers. “I wish I had known how much old stuff I’d never really dealt with would come to the fore.” “I just wish I’d known how destabilizing it can be.” “I wish I’d understood more about how childhood trauma (smacking, shaming, being shouted at as most 80s kids were I think!) can manifest and trigger you when you have your own children.” “I wish I’d known how difficult it actually is being a mother. I wish I had more understanding towards other mothers.”
