The fact is, most of us focus more on what we don’t want to happen rather than what we do want. When I coach people and ask them to describe their ideal life or career, most often they’ll start telling me what they don’t want. For example, “I don’t want a stressful job, I don’t want to waste my money, I don’t want to be in a toxic relationship, I don’t want a boss who’s going to micromanage me, I don’t want problem customers, and so on.”
