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With an AS child it can be very hard to get this vital foundation laid. There are a lot of reasons for this. For example, he tends to have a very unrealistic self-image; he suffers from a lot of anxiety; he has huge social problems; he is hard to motivate; and his behaviour can be very difficult to handle. All this gives him extreme problems in relating to the world.
If we neglect ourselves, we gradually build up stress, resentment and anger which slowly simmer away, causing damage to our health.
Make a point of regularly doing things just for yourself: take some time off; go to the gym; have a bubble bath; go out for coffee with a friend; watch a video; go for a walk; listen to your favourite music. Just do whatever it takes to keep you feeling happy and nurtured.
TIP # 2 Get plenty of support
TIP # 3 Don’t take things personally As parents we expect to put a lot of effort into giving love to all our children.
TIP # 4 Don’t neglect other areas of your life
Too often as parents we forget the power of praise. Instead of looking for things to praise in our children, we wait till we notice them doing something wrong and then criticise them for it. Yet praise is a powerful motivator. It builds self-esteem by letting children know ‘You’re doing OK.’ And the AS child needs this feedback more than most. Train yourself to look for opportunities to give him warm, encouraging feedback on his behaviour, on the effort he is making and on his progress.
‘See-Feel-Name’.
Jeg ser at du lot Julie få sin tur, jeg blir kjempeglad når du gjør det, det er en stor og flink gutt det!
Let him experience plenty of successes by putting him in ‘win-win’ situations. This means that sometimes it is better to avoid things when you know he will find them too hard. • Don’t draw attention to his mistakes too much.
What is Asperger Syndrome? Asperger Syndrome is a disability which in some ways is similar to autism. People with Asperger Syndrome generally look and sound normal. They have difficulties in the areas of social understanding and social communication. They can appear rude, gauche and arrogant and can behave in odd, eccentric and unpredictable ways. Asperger Syndrome can affect people from all walks of life and with various degress of intelligence from moderate learning difficulties to intellectually gifted. Please be patient, they do not mean to offend.
Oppsummering på As
What has been going on in his life recently? Have there been any changes? • Has he recently changed class? • Has his routine changed? • Is he ill, run down or especially tired? • Has someone new come into his life? • Might there be anything going on that you’re not aware of ? Bullying at school? Sensory difficulties? • Is there any kind of pattern? • Is there anything he seems to find especially difficult? • Might there be bullying going on at school? (See p.117)
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TIP # 29 Use a timer or stopwatch Kitchen timers are generally available quite easily and cheaply and stopwatches can be purchased in sports shops. These items are a great investment for the AS child and can be a great help in giving him the structure and predictability that he needs. He may find a reassuring certainty in hearing the loud beep telling him the time is up. And apart from that they can be great fun to play with! Timers can be useful in many situations, for example: • You need to settle down within the next two minutes. • I want to have 20 minutes of peace without you interrupting
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The child with Asperger Syndrome usually learns and remembers far more from what he sees than from what he hears.
TIP # 34 ‘Jammy Days’
home, if that is how he feels. Literal interpretation He also has a tendency to take things such as figures of speech literally. This can lead to some funny situations at times, but it can also cause him problems of confusion and misunderstanding.
Overact your own body language to show him how you feel. • Tell him the rules in words. For example: ‘When an adult is travelling with us in the car it is normally regarded as rude if a child refuses to allow him to sit in the front seat.’ • Talk openly and calmly to him about his emotions.
TIP # 39 An Emotions Book Make a special Emotions Book to help you explore emotions with the child. Have in it, for example, happy pages, sad pages, angry pages, frightened pages. Stick in or draw appropriate pictures, stories or words. Make lists of things that make you happy, things that make you angry, and so on.
TIP # 40 A figures of speech project
TIP # 76 Use the ‘R-O-S’ technique (Request-Order- Sanction)
• anxiety, aggravated by an extreme sensation of disgust • sensory issues • control issues.
