People who leave are assumed to be interested in sin. Years ago, I asked a relative why she’d never wanted to know why I left the faith. I was shocked to hear her say, “Well, all the people I’ve known who left the church wanted to go back to their old ways — sleep around or do drugs and not feel guilty.” Part of the control mechanism is shaming.
The fact that this is the assumed reason with no chance to defend your own beliefs is infuriating and yet with fundamentalism any protestation to this point is a waste of energy
