Another common pattern is for the family to avoid handling conflicts until the point is reached when emotions boil over. Then chaos reigns as explosions of anger, producing much pain and even abuse. This is followed by intense feelings of guilt, and sometimes apologies, but the damage is already done. With continued avoidance, this pattern is repeated many times, producing a family of deeply scarred individuals. Despite their belief in the grace of God, these family members may feel confused and guilty for their behavior, as well as frustrated that God does not produce changes that heal. The
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