There are many ways of dealing with abuse. Ultimately, Jocelyn and I both decided that it wasn’t healthy to deny what happened to us. What we have been through is a part of who we have become. I’ve been asked many times how I survived. My method has been to accept the past as part of my development into the person I am today. I refuse to sugarcoat the memories that still cause my heart to race when I hear a garage door open after all these years. I will not minimize the effect the sound a belt buckle has on me when it hits a hard surface even now. I no longer attempt to block out the memories
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