When the Body Says No

by Gabor Maté

For many people, guilt is a signal that they have chosen to do something for themselves.

Anger, or the healthy experience of it, is one of the seven A’s of healing.

Even rudimentary psychological support can make a difference

only that I had figured out how to protect myself.” “By being alone.” “By being alone and yes . . . without feeling contact.

We repress our emotional intelligence in order to avoid an ongoing war with the crucial people in our lives,

“People who can’t understand words are better at picking up lies about emotions.”

I may choose to display my anger as necessary in words or in deeds, but I do not need to act it out in a driven fashion as uncontrolled rage. Healthy anger leaves the individual, not the unbridled emotion, in charge.

‘stop being so overbearing. Let it go. Let me do what I’m going to do.’ It’s my life. I’ll make my mistakes, but my mom has got to let me do that.

Assertion challenges the core belief that we must somehow justify our existence.

I needed to write, to express myself through written language not only so that others might hear me but so that I could hear myself.

Health rests on three pillars: the body, the psyche and the spiritual connection.