In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You To Know About Adoption. A Guide for Relatives and Friends

by Elisabeth O'Toole

Ask what you can do; ask how you can help.

Let the parents determine how and when to introduce the child to others.

Some families just need to cocoon for a while. But do ask.

If you have any question as to whether a gift is appropriate, do ask the parents.

Reassure them that their feelings are normal.

Follow their lead.