Most of the time, we do not resort to silence for well-intentioned reasons. No, we walk away when we do not want to talk about something unpleasant or we do not want to face something we know should be changed. A biblical proverb says, “A soft answer turns away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1). In other words, the best policy is to put out the fire slowly by cooperating with gentleness, respect, and no defensiveness. When we simply refuse to talk about things, we are opting out of the very arrangement of marriage, of having unity.
