Are you committed to this relationship because you want to be, you ought to be, or you have to be? (Hint: the best answer includes all three.) Ask yourself how strong your “want to” is and evaluate that. Then move to the “ought to,” meaning your sense of obligation to your marriage, your spouse, your children, your vows, and even your religious beliefs. Evaluate how strong your commitment is in these areas. Finally, move to the “have to.” This includes all that you would lose if you lost your relationship. Time, effort, history together, closeness to your children, and, yes, even your material
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