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get more leverage on yourself.
Find a new, empowering alternative for getting yourself out of pain and into pleasure that is as powerful and convenient as your old approach was. All
problems in business, being stuck in a pattern of yelling at your children. Let’s say you worry too much about things over which you have no control. How can you use the six steps to change this disempowering pattern? 1) Ask yourself, “What do I want to do instead of worry?” 2) Get leverage on yourself and realize what worry does to destroy your life. Bring it to a threshold; see what it would cost you ultimately in your life so that you’re not willing to pay that price anymore. Imagine the joy of getting this monkey off your
“Hey, bucko… I’m through begging.” 3) Interrupt the pattern! Every time you worry, break the pattern by being totally outrageous. Stick your finger up your nose, or belt out “Oh, What a Beautiful Morning!” at the top of your lungs.
4) Create an empowering alternative. What will you do instead of worry? Pull out your journal and write down a plan of what you can do immediately instead. Maybe you can go for a run, and while you’re running, you can think of new solutions. 5) Condition the new pattern; vividly imagine and rehearse this new pattern with tremendous emotional intensity and repetition until this new thought, behavior or emotional pattern is automatic. Reinforce yourself by taking the first step: see yourself succeding again and again. Seeing the results in advance can give you the pleasure you desire. Again, use
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because you think it will give you feelings of love, intimacy, connection, or warmth? Do you want to save the world because of the feelings of contribution and making a difference you believe this will give you? In short, then,
What it all comes down to is the fact that you want these things or results because you see them as a means to achieving certain feelings, emotions, or states that you desire.
You can be gifted with the courage and determination of Marva Collins, the grace and flair of Fred Astaire, the strength and endurance of Nolan Ryan, the compassion and intellect of Albert Einstein—but if you continually submerge yourself in negative states, you’ll never fulfill that promise of excellence.
state: by changing the way you use your physical body, or by changing your focus.
knock, and it will be opened to you.” —MATTHEW 7:7 The
most powerful way to control focus is through the use of questions. For whatever you ask, your brain provides an answer; whatever you look for, you’ll find. If you
Questions are such a powerful tool for changing your life, I’ve reserved the next chapter to talk exclusively about them.
You’ve got to be in a determined state in order to succeed.
perform better on your job, realize that intelligence is often a factor of state. People who supposedly have limited capability will find their talent shooting through the roof if they get into a new state.
Anyone who’s dyslexic or has any other state-based challenge can use these strategies to turn themselves around.
Sit down right now and write down a list of things that you currently do to change how you feel.
