there may be a need to tell somebody about your own hurt, and this can be therapeutic. But you should tell maybe only one other person and be sure that person will never repeat it. Telling a person with the purpose of hurting another’s reputation or credibility is but wanting to punish them. That is why we usually tell – not so much for therapeutic reasons but to keep our enemy from being admired. I tell what that person did to me so that you will think less of them. It is my attempt to punish
