The problem is that there are important aspects of our experience that we ignore. Many of us, like the woman mentioned in chapter two, refuse to face our feelings of shame. They make us feel too vulnerable. So we pretend they do not exist and hope they will go away. Or it may be our broken and wounded self that we try to deny. When we do so, however, these unwanted parts of self do not go away. They simply go into hiding. If, for example, I only know my strong, competent self
