How do we convince people with low self-esteem that they have self-worth? We begin by having that conviction about them. If we value them as worthy human beings, we can safely assume that our feelings will be conveyed to them. Empty compliments and flattery are of no value, but we must always be on the alert to identify every positive feature in their past and present, and give them reason to feel proud. Generally, people are quite adept at catching others doing something wrong. In dealing with addicts, we must be alert to “catch” them doing something right, and commend them for it.

