Acceptance can actually bring a sense of relief and calmness. It is at this stage that you finally understand that there is nothing that you can do to fix the behaviors, feelings, or thinking of the BP/NP. This understanding brings a sense of calm because now you know there is no longer any need to be angry at yourself or the BP/NP. There is no longer any need to put energy, thought, and time into giving in, placating, demanding, or tricking the BP/NP to make things work better. And there is no longer any need to continually work on understanding why the BP/NP does what he or she does.
