If you already know there is something wrong with your BP/NP parent, adult child, or spouse, it can be very threatening to realize you are permanently attached to someone who is so dysfunctional. Therefore, it can actually feel more comfortable to think there is something wrong with you. At least then you can believe that you have control over changing it. So seeing yourself as not normal can be a way to stay safe and work at changing things without really making any waves with the BP/NP.
