Caretakers have a propensity to be responsible for everything. You may have filled the role of peacemaker, soother, or go-between in your family. Being able to create a calm feeling in an explosive, dysfunctional family; to diffuse intense conflicts; or to have compassion for the BP/NP’s pain may be ways that you feel a sense of contribution and value. Like the BP/NP, you may not have received enough attention or validation growing up, or you may have been rewarded for giving up your own wants and needs.
