The BP/NP has much more intense reactions to all of their feelings than normal individuals. These negative feelings are so upsetting that they try to push them away by projecting them onto someone else, especially someone who is emotionally and intimately close, such as a child or a spouse. The BP/NP has a desperate need to have someone in his or her life to carry these overwhelming negative feelings, someone to accuse of causing the internal pain, someone to hate so as not to hate the self.
