On the one hand, you may feel you are the superior person because you act better and are often more competent than the BP/NP. But you still get the message that you are the inferior or “wrong” person who is to blame. This double message can create long-term confusion, resentment, stress, and hostility, even though you may not be aware of it. In order to follow your assigned role in the family as the Caretaker, you must always be “good” or “nice.”
