Because of the demand for everyone to be the same in the BP/NP family, intimacy is completely absent. Intimacy does not occur when everyone must be alike. Your need for intimacy, however, is a deep human craving and is part of your life purpose. People in BP/NP relationships have both a great longing for intimacy because it is missing and a great fear of it because it would disrupt the pseudointimacy of the “all is one” feeling of merging that they believe keeps everyone emotionally safe and accepted.
