Obviously, if you are caretaking a BP/NP, then it stands to reason that your needs aren’t getting taken care of. When I ask Caretakers how they take care of themselves, I usually get blank stares or explanations that they would feel better if the BP/NP would just think of his or her needs. You may think that taking care of the BP/NP actually is taking care of yourself. However, this is a good example of your thinking that you and the BP/NP are fused into one. When only one person’s needs get met, they will always be the BP/NP’s needs, not yours.
