You collude with the BP/NP to protect the relationship from dissolving, usually by your own perfectionistic demands that you be loyal to the BP/NP no matter how he or she treats you. Protesting colluders are the most vulnerable to being tricked by the BP/NP’s promise to change. You think that if the BP/NP acts nicer one time, the relationship will start moving in a more positive direction and that everything will improve. Surprisingly, you can be tricked over and over without any substantive changes by the BP/NP. Your sense of loyalty demands that you be continually forgiving and hopeful even
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