Caretakers most often say that they give in and give up and do everything that the BP/NP wants primarily to avoid the BP/NP’s anger. Yes, the BP/NP does use anger as a way to control others. But why are you so sensitive to his or her anger? Does your reaction to the BP/NP’s anger feel like knives going through you, being annihilated, or falling off a cliff? These are descriptions I have heard from Caretakers in my practice. Having an extremely fearful reaction to anger really gets in your way of having a healthy,
