You may need to continually remind yourself that the BP/NP has little or no interest in what you think, what you are doing, what you want, and so on. If you want a friend—someone to listen and really understand what you’re going through—look for an emotionally healthy person for that. Let the BP/NP talk about his or her own interests, and when you get bored, excuse yourself and leave. You will now be in a more cordial relationship with the BP/NP, but it has limited content and pretty much no emotional connection. You may find yourself yearning for the few early days, weeks, or months of your
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