You think the BP/NP is making you feel these bad things about yourself, but the BP/NP is actually tuning into the negative self-criticisms that you already have. Instead of just reacting, use these experiences to identify your emotional buttons and negative self-thoughts and work on healing them. When you identify negative self-beliefs and replace them with positive strengths and self-validations, you can begin turning off the emotional buttons that the BP/NP has used in the past to cause you hurt.
