To find out, all we need to do is ask ourselves: “If their happiness were best served by leaving me, how would I feel about it?” This reveals the degree to which we are trying to restrict and control the other person—which is attachment and not love.
You know you really did loved the person when a thought of them come to your mind of how happy they are with someone else and that does not include you anymore, but when such thought come to me I am truly happy and okay with it. It would be a pleasure to witness their happiness even from a far, I would always wish them the great things in life , I would want them to be happy always with or without me. I would actually would like the people who I love to indeed to know how to live without me. What a great way to live life it is and this is because they came into my life. But everything must come to an end, and if we really love a person as much as we say we would also surrender to the ending; letting go is also loving in another form. I realised love is not like movies, unrealistic obsession attachment, it is way bigger than ourselves, than our desire.
It is selfless.
