“You create the experience of love by giving the gift of acceptance and appreciation. You destroy it by being judgmental, critical, and controlling. Notice how you feel when someone is non-accepting towards you. Notice how fast the experience of love disappears. Instantly, you get hurt. You get upset and close down. You put up your walls of protection and automatically become non-accepting and critical in return. Then the other person gets upset, puts up his or her walls of protection, and becomes even more non-accepting towards you.”
