In divorce, we’re also liable to spend a lot of time brooding on the past. A famous Zen story addresses that tendency. A young monk and his master came upon a young woman hoping to cross a river. Despite the monastic prohibition against touching women, the older monk promptly lifted the woman onto his back and carried her across. As the two monks continued on their journey, the younger one fretted about this violation for hours. Finally, he told his master of his agitation. The older monk’s reply was swift and firm: “I set that woman down at the other side of the river. Why are you still
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a wonderful insight on divorce.
