” Even in those early days, I could see that my anger at Claire was causing me to see only her bad side; I was blocking out the four years of happiness we had shared, and all of the kind and loving things she had done. Forgiving didn’t mean that I needed to excuse any wrongs she might have done. It meant that I could take a more compassionate, understanding view of why she did them—I could see that she had acted out of a desire to avoid pain, rather than any wish to hurt me.
