Khadija

by Reşit Haylamaz

That is why they used to call her “Tahira,” meaning “pure and clean,” even in those days when higher values had been all but lost. Amongst the women of the Quraysh, she was called “Sayyida,” a term of great respect meaning “a great lady.” She was also known as “Jayyida,” referring to her sharp wit at grasping things with deep insight and quick understanding.

Indeed, who would not want to pursue marriage to someone like her? In terms of ancestry, she came from a noble and upright clan; in terms of her social standing, she belonged to a respected and well-to-do family. She was also comely and intelligent, and her behavior showed maturity and balance.

As can be seen, fate had prepared a path for Khadija, and she was walking this path, step by step, with holy blessings. Everything was pointing to his coming. The time was nearing for their paths to meet. As the Prophet once said, people are similar to resources that are yet to be discovered; if they have value, this will eventually be noticed, bringing them to the place they merit. At the same time, souls which are compatible will attract each other and meet on common ground.

Khadija’s elation did not overshadow her generosity or let her forget her sense of duty. When she left in the morning, Halima had with her forty sheep given to her by Khadija to thank her for the milk she had given Muhammad, son of Abd Allah.

For a woman to be away from her husband for this long was not something to be easily endured; however, Khadija did not show the slightest negative reaction to these separations, instead sharing in the solitude of the Prophet, encouraging him in the names of the days yet to come.