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“incorrigibly socialized in his desires.”
nonprofessionals can act as therapists;
Rogers’s human potential movement.
The prevailing judgment was that Rogers could be dismissed because he was not serious. This judgment hides and reveals a narrow view of what is serious or intellectual.
“to be that self which one truly is,”
Humans require acceptance, and given acceptance, they move toward “self-actualization.”
The self-awareness and human presence of the therapist
acceptance, empathy, and positive regard
to inform teaching, friendship, and family life.
freedom of inquiry, and in following the truth no matter where it led.
the possibility that there were mistakes in authoritative teachings, and that there was still new knowledge to discover.
to be understood has a very positive value to these individuals.
he can only build bridges to other islands if he is first of all willing to be himself and permitted to be himself. So I find that when I can accept another person, which means specifically accepting the feelings and attitudes and beliefs that he has as a real and vital part of him, then I am assisting him to become a person: and there seems to me great value in this.
less and less inclined to hurry in to fix things,
I am much more content simply to be myself and to let another person be himself.
the more change seems to be stirred up.
when an activity feels as though it is valuable or worth doing, it is worth doing.
But I have never regretted moving in directions which “felt right,”
only one person
can know whether what I am doing is honest, thorough, open, and sound, or false and defensive and unsound, and I am that person.
Every bit of evidence one can acquire, in any area, leads one that much closer to what is true. And being closer to the truth can never be a harmful or dangerous or unsatisfying thing.
no philosophy or belief or set of principles which I could encourage or persuade others to have or hold.
that the therapist clarified and openly stated feelings which the client had been approaching hazily and hesitantly.
warm interest
desiring to understand.
the attitudes and feelings of the therapist,
are perceived which
To withhold one’s self as a person and to deal with the other person as an object does not have a high probability of being helpful.
to inform someone that he is good implies that you also have the right to tell him he is bad.
For it is not upon the physical sciences that the future will depend. It is upon us who are trying to understand and deal with the interactions between human beings—who are trying to create helping relationships.
But when someone understands how it feels and seems to be me, without wanting
to analyze me or judge me, then I can blossom and grow in that climate.
the moment-to-moment experiencing which occurs in the inner ...
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as he finds someone else listening acceptantly to his feelings, he little by little becomes able to listen to himself.
the therapist showing a consistent and unconditional positive regard for him
he moves toward taking the same attitude toward himself, accepting himself as he is, and therefore ready to move forward in the process of becoming.
construing experience in rigid ways, which are perceived as external facts, the client moves toward developing changing, loosely held construings of meaning in experience,
He moves away from perceiving himself as unacceptable to himself, as unworthy of respect, as having to live by the standards of others. He moves toward a conception of himself as a person of worth, as a self-directing person, able to form his standards and values upon the basis of his own experience.
The initial discrepancy between the self that he is and the self that he wants to be is greatly diminished.
therapist as real or genuine, as empathic, as having an unconditional regard for him,
sense how frightening his world is for him, how tightly he tries to hold it in place.
fearful journey into himself, into the buried fear, and hate, and love which he has never been able to let flow in him.
of permitting the person to experience fully, and in awareness, all of his reactions including his feelings and emotions. As
socialized, forward-moving, rational and realistic.
Christian
man is basically sinful,
anti-social emotions—hostility, jealousy, etc.—result from frustration of more basic impulses for love and security and belonging,
cooperation, rather than struggle, is the basic law of human life.
deep experience of having been hurt.
getting back to basic sensory and visceral experience.
