that love can never be between equals because love makes people unequal. It returns them to, it reminds them of, an initiating inequality. Love is the medium in which people become unequal, and for the reasons actually spelled out by Baier; the original situation of unequal dependency (or, as the analyst Enid Balint remarked many years ago, the mother is everything to the infant, but the infant is not everything to the mother).
