When you find yourself in conflict, work backwards through the progression of an idol to identify the desires that are controlling your heart. Ask yourself these questions: How am I punishing others? How am I judging others? What am I demanding to have? What is the root desire of that demand? Prayerfully ask yourself the X-ray questions provided earlier in this chapter. They will help you discern any excessive desires that have become ruling idols in your heart. Keep track of your discoveries in a journal so that you can identify patterns and steadily go after specific idols. Pray daily that
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