If a relationship is stuck in feeling intensity, disguised outwardly by superficiality, silence, and avoidance, it is important to get in touch with the emotional intensity that underlies the distant stance. If one does not, to some degree, differentiate self from the togetherness that generates that intensity, one will usually try another relationship posture in the interest of doing something different. The solution for a relationship posture is not another posture, however, nor is it intense closeness. Rather, intense closeness is one of the stances of relationship fusion from which
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