The most difficult impasses usually occur in the triangle with one’s mother and father. Teaching about differentiation of self, Bowen pointed out it is especially important to get an individual relationship with each parent. One parent may be the spokesperson, and so it may be easier to get a relationship with that one. As soon as one has resolved the intensity with one parent, it is important to do the same with the other. A goal is to be able to relate to parents, as an open and separate equal, personal things about yourself and them, without going into a lot of extraneous issues and without
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