Being able to say “I’m sorry” and offer forgiveness usually helps to break through bitterness, distance, and the self-serving traps of blaming tit for tat. It’s a brave thing to be able to say, “I am sorry. Can you please forgive me?” Make sure you’re not giving a “nonapology” like, “I’m sorry you think that,” or “I’m sorry you feel that way.” This puts the blame back on your partner for his thoughts or feelings. More appropriate are “I’m sorry if I did something to make you think that,” or “I’m sorry if my comments hurt your feelings.” Realize your role in the situation and acknowledge it.
