To use an illustration from the sphere of sex, it is as though a man were to perform intercourse in the attitude of imploring the woman to “please be satisfied”—an attitude which actually exists, though often unconsciously, among men in our society more widely than is generally realized. And, to illustrate how this attitude backfires in personal relations, we may add that if the man is mainly concerned with satisfying the woman, his full abandon and active strength do not come into the relationship, and in many cases this is precisely the reason the woman does not receive full gratification.
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