For her part, Monica can’t imagine that when Jay names a restaurant he’s just throwing out an idea—his way of starting a negotiation. He intends the restaurant he mentions as a suggestion, not a demand. Since she expects a negotiation to start vague and work its way in, and he expects it to start specific and work its way out, she never gets a chance to say what she wants and blames him for not caring, and he thinks she doesn’t know or won’t say what she wants and is always forcing him to decide.
