It would be better to learn to respond one way or the other—to go with the frame or resist—depending on the situation. The first step toward this exercise of control is to recognize when we feel uncomfortable with the frames we’re put in and understand the ways of talking that are doing the framing. The second is to practice ways of resisting that framing or of changing frames by talking differently. In some cases, it may even be worthwhile to metacommunicate: to talk about the frame, with or without using the term.
