The Nine coping strategy is thus an overadjustment to others—an unconscious accommodation of what other people want and a “forgetting” of what they want—and their attention goes to harmonizing with those around them rather than asserting themselves. This over-adjustment reflects their experience that any strong feeling or preference on their part may put them in conflict with others; at an unconscious level, their personality is set up to avoid adversarial interactions at all costs.
