The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge

by Beatrice Chestnut

To really increase their self-knowledge, it will be important for Fours to remind themselves (repeatedly) about what they don’t see when their personality is driving the show. Fours pay so much attention to what is lacking—in themselves, in other people, and in the good things that come to them—that they habitually avoid seeing all that’s not missing, all the quality and value and goodness inherent in their selves and in others. If you have blind spots where your beauty, goodness, and power should be, how can you develop the confidence and faith in yourself to take action to get what you need and want? If you don’t recognize the potential in others, give them credit for their good points, and appreciate the way they make efforts to love you even though they aren’t perfect, how can you be receptive to the good stuff others want to give you? By focusing on what isn’t there, you blind yourself to all that is there.