This “trap” reflects a basic conflict at the core of the One personality. Ones avoid criticism and punishment by holding themselves or others to a punishingly high standard. They then fuel this cycle with anger and resentment at failures to meet this standard. In this way their striving to free themselves or others from fault only reinforces Type Ones’ habitual beliefs about being unworthy or unlovable. Thus, Ones’ efforts to prove themselves acceptable and lovable ends up reinforcing their false belief in their imperfection and unlovableness. Clearly, when you only love what is perfect, it’s
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