Type Fours paradoxically “seek happiness through pain”15 and get trapped in the various ways they generate pain as a defense against the fear of not getting the happiness they want. And while they long for love and understanding, they habitually prevent themselves from receiving the love they seek—rejecting themselves as unworthy, invalidating the love they do get, creating drama and suffering as obstacles to healthy relationships, and proactively abandoning their efforts before they are abandoned.
