Another important aspect of development for the Four is learning to accept themselves and not beat themselves up for what they perceive as their deficiencies. It is crucial for Fours to gradually learn to find the love and acceptance they crave within themselves, to learn to appreciate who they really are, and let go of their consistent focus on the ways in which they are unworthy or bad. A big part of the chronic frustration Fours feel in not getting the love they want is that they don’t love themselves. This lack of self-love is what keeps the whole Four defensive cycle going. Make active
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