Most of us have an ideal version of how we think the world should be. I have to. You must. They should. It has to be. When we hear these words, we are listening to the voices of our narrators expressing an agreement that is at a higher level of attachment. The narrators are reminding us how things are to progress within the framework of our understanding in order for the world to be the way we want or expect it to be. These are the rules we have created for ourselves to live by—and if we fail to follow these rules, we judge ourselves (and others) harshly. We have to get it “right,” and our
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