When two people are “in love,” people commonly say that they are “more than just friends.” But in the long run, they seem to treat each other as less than friends. Most people think that being “in love” is a much more intimate, much more “meaningful,” relationship than “mere” friendship. Why, then, do couples refuse each other the selfless love, the kindness and good will, that they readily give to their friends? People can’t ask of their friends that they carry all their projections, be scapegoats for all their moods, keep them feeling happy, and make life complete for them. Why do couples
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