We are all so caught up in the belief that romantic love is “true love” that we use the term for many things that are not romantic love at all. We assume that if it is love, it must be “romance,” and if it is romance, it must be “love.” The fact that we say “romance” when we mean “love” shows us that underneath our language there is a psychological muddle. Our confusion in language is the symptom that tells us we have lost the consciousness of what love is, what romance is, and what the differences are between them.
