Our desperate need is to realize that we need both qualities in life: We need individuality and we also need relationship to a particular person. We can’t have one at the expense of the other; no man can be fully an individual unless he is fully related, and his capacity for genuine relatedness grows in proportion as he becomes a complete individual. These two aspects of life are yoked together by a deep and ancient bond, for they are really two sides of the same archetype, two faces of the same reality.
